“no one is going to love you if you don’t love yourself”

You’ve probably seen the words above countless times before. It’s one of those things that gets thrown around, usually when someone is in a down-and-out state and struggling to understand why he or she doesn’t feel loved. If they’re being said to you they can be painful, but the pain underlines a telling fact: those words are true. Whether or not you want to believe it, if you don’t love yourself, no one else can truly love you. Certainly you can be in relationships and experience varieties of emotions similar to love, but if you don’t love yourself, if you don’t respect yourself, I can guarantee you that no one else can really, truly love or respect you either. […]