If Only

by Peg O'Neill

I recently had to do something that is a difficult thing for most doctors, especially pediatricians:  I attended the wake of one of my patients.  While the death of a child is almost always premature, this was a particularly heart-wrenching story, of a healthy, happy ten year old boy, who died as a result of a tragic drowning accident, the details of which I still don’t know, but what I do know is that he was not wearing a life preserver.  Perhaps, on that gorgeous, horrible summer day, if the current of the river on which he was tubing had been just a little gentler, or if the wind had been blowing on a slightly altered path, or if something else had been different, maybe he would be here today, playing baseball, cracking jokes, spending time outside in the neighborhood with his friends, as ten year old boys tend to do in our town when the weather is good.   And while no one will ever know whether he would have been ultimately OK if he had been wearing a life preserver, this lingering question will likely forever haunt his family, and the rest of us:  if only he had been wearing one, would he still be here? […]

Just A Number

by Peg O'Neill, M.D.

They say that age is just a number, but I’m not so sure.  Try telling this to my 10 year old son, or his five year old (excuse me, five and a HALF) year old brother.  Or to the almost sixteen year old in my office the other day who was counting the hours until her birthday, when she could get her learner’s permit.  When you are young, getting older is a good thing.  Your age determines whether you are “big enough” to get certain privileges, like biking to school on your own, or being able to drive, or staying up late to watch the Red Sox game.  You have to be old enough.  The older you are, the more you get to do. The older you are, the more you are in charge.  Old is cool, when you’re young.  […]

Doctor Mom: A Tribute to My Mom

by Peg O'Neill

My mother is a retired nurse.  Thus, when my siblings and I were growing up, the usual aches and pains of childhood got very little attention unless they were really serious, and episodes of playground trauma were met with abbreviated sympathy, the occasional band-aid, and instructions to go back and play.  Because of my mother’s medical knowledge, we were unable to milk certain situations.  Although we sometimes got to stay home from school for true illness, it was hard to fake being sick with my mom.  Other than those episodes of ear infections and the occasional strep throat, we rarely went to the doctor except for check-ups and significant head trauma requiring stitches. […]

The Changing Body

by Peg O'Neill

Like many women of various ages, I have an old pair of jeans in my closet that no longer fits.  Why I haven’t donated them to some anonymous, younger, lithe woman who shops at the Goodwill store is complicated, and not entirely clear even to myself.  But I think it has something to do with a belief, or hope, that I’ll be able to fit into them again, no problem, with just a subtle tweaking of my activity level and eating habits.  […]

Extreme Parenting

by Peg O'Neill

Amy Chua’s new book, “Battle Hymn of a Tiger Mother” has created an impressive flurry of opinion on parenting.  This memoir, written by a Chinese-American mother who rejects “The Western Style of Parenting” in favor of a more stringent method consistent with her traditional Chinese upbringing, has ignited praise, criticism and even indignation.  It has been a hot topic of discussion in the media, and among many of the mothers who bring their children to my practice.  Thus, it was with a considerable amount of curiosity that I began my read of “Tiger Mother.” […]

Move, Sister, Move!

by Peg O'Neill

Anyone who has ever taken care of young children knows how physically exhausting it is.  We also know that the mere presence of kids requires us to move.  When they are infants, we pace the floor at night to soothe fussiness, and walk them in the stroller to help them fall asleep (not a strategy that I promote, but it happens).  We are constantly running after them when they are toddlers to prevent the disasters that can so easily befall them.  Even when kids progress beyond the stage which requires non-stop vigilance and quick reflexes, as my 10 and 5 year-old boys have, there is still a fair amount of physicality required, if you want to keep up with them and share in some of their activities. […]

Advanced Maternal Age: It Is What It Is…

by Peg O’Neill

“I hate to remind you of this, but you do fall into the category of Advanced Maternal Age…” said my obstetrician at one of my early prenatal visits, the one when you’re supposed to discuss options for prenatal testing.  Unwisely, my husband started chuckling, but shut up immediately when I glared at him with one of those hormonally-charged looks of scorn that only pregnant and peri-menopausal women can muster. […]

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