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When Roger and I embarked on the journey of adopting a baby several years ago, everything we “knew” about adoption was from decades past:

• You waited on a long list until the agency matched you with a situation. Top of the list of criteria for the match? Your place in line.
• You tried to make the building of your family as close to “normal” (read: biological) as possible. You didn’t talk much about the adoption, either inside or outside of the family, and you certainly didn’t have any contact with birth parents. The goal was to make it seamless, almost as if adoption were never part of the story. […]